tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486020167848564517.post3654509734327706940..comments2024-03-14T12:28:32.425-06:00Comments on Doves Today: Sexual harassment - another go-roundGlennishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03681336164718681936noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486020167848564517.post-53230003775043974662011-11-08T22:07:16.085-06:002011-11-08T22:07:16.085-06:00Sheila, it isn't harassment unless it's un...Sheila, it isn't harassment unless it's unwelcome. Sounds like you were cool with it.Glennishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03681336164718681936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486020167848564517.post-9775450225853371872011-11-08T22:02:08.596-06:002011-11-08T22:02:08.596-06:00If it hadn't been for what can now be called s...If it hadn't been for what can now be called sexual harrassment,which apparently can be just about anything these days, the job I had for many years wouldn't have been nearly as much fun.Sheilahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06677357513036547236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486020167848564517.post-38297912168237894882011-11-08T15:05:48.964-06:002011-11-08T15:05:48.964-06:00I spent a semester or two as a stage hand in high ...I spent a semester or two as a stage hand in high school, and I can relate on the guy talk that goes on in that world. It didn't really bother me. But in the dorms in college, there was definitely some harassment happening. I've been very lucky that I never had to experience it myself in the workplace.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486020167848564517.post-4940282696768571292011-11-08T10:19:09.844-06:002011-11-08T10:19:09.844-06:00Talk about the bad old days, Aunt Snow!
When I wa...Talk about the bad old days, Aunt Snow!<br /><br />When I was working at a Fortune 100 insurance company, a co-worker of mine accused a manager of sexual harassment. In this case, the manager was a socially awkward, divorced father of two young boys, and the accuser was a younger woman who tended to be very manipulative. While nobody doubted that the manager may have said something stupid (he once wistfully asked another girl if she'd consider marrying him), the accuser was disliked by many co-workers and distrusted by just about everyone. The accuser was leaving the company anyway, and the manager stayed on with the company, and I don't know if there was a settlement, but it was a bad business all around. <br /><br />Personally, I've always avoided workplace romances (twice, at the insurance company, I had the office "mom" approach me to tell me that a co-worker had told her she was interested in me, both times I declined, and told the office mom that I didn't even want to know who was interested, because I didn't want my co-worker to feel rejected). Yeah, never thought workplace romances were prudent.Big Bad Bald Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01983025559556548658noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486020167848564517.post-82155027588312130232011-11-08T10:02:26.671-06:002011-11-08T10:02:26.671-06:00Although I also work in a blue collar job, I have ...Although I also work in a blue collar job, I have been very, very lucky to find a working environment where it's simply not tolerated and have only had one problem - I calmly told the guy that if my supervisor didn't take care of it, I would and that really, he'd much prefer the former. He backed off. <br /><br />One of my good friends, however, had a guy from work stalk her, follow her home, sit outside her house, etc. <br /><br />She ended up having to change jobs, move, and got a restraining order. I was horrified at the hell she went through and wouldn't wish anything like that on my worst enemy.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14250297880221368338noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7486020167848564517.post-27582204941368883982011-11-08T08:48:47.906-06:002011-11-08T08:48:47.906-06:00When I worked as a Sales Support coordinator for 4...When I worked as a Sales Support coordinator for 40 outside salesmen in the 90's I experienced harassment, both sexual and other types. I could usually handle it myself with education and communication.<br />However, there was a salesman who thought I had played fast and loose with his commission (of course I hadn't). He began leaving obscene and threatening messages on my answering machine each morning. We both answered directly to the sales manager. I went to my supervisor and complained, he did nothing, I went to my supervisor's boss and he did nothing. I went to HR and they said they would talk to the guy. They did, it did no good. The calls contiinued.<br />I went back to H.R. They said it was a difficult situation because the guy was an outside contractor. (who worked for the company exclusively for 25 years). They told me I could file a lawsuit but I would probably loose. I felt betrayed (to say the least). Anyway the A-hole got tired of his game after about eight months and finally left me alone. However, I lost respect for my boss and my loyalty to the company was gone. My work suffered and I was no longer happy there. I often wish I had filed that lawsuit. I also wonder who else this guy had harassed in his life. <br />Harassment of any kind is not a little thing, as I was told and it changes you. I never looked at any male coworker the same again. I was always a bit cold to them after the experience . AlbugAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com